@uncle twist, it does sound like calibration in RealFlight is not completing successfully for the slider. It
should be as simple as centering all the controls--including the sliders--before beginning calibration, then moving them to their extents when instructed. The bouncing around and going from centered to full left/right at the merest touch of the control is typical for a channel that is uncalibrated. But it shouldn't be that way after a successful calibration.
If the calibration dialog says you have only calibrated X out of X channels, that means it wasn't able to detect the expected kinds of changes for one or more channels, and they will
not be calibrated if you continue. That can happen if you straight up forget one (it happens!), or if you don't center all of the controls when instructed (sliders are particularly easy to miss). Of course it can happen if you fail to exercise a channel throughout its full range during the appropriate step. And it could happen if a hardware problem is messing up a channel's output.
Do I understand correctly that you attempted a calibration in Windows early on in this process? We don't recommend that. We only ever calibrate in RealFlight. I wonder if a bad calibration there is at the root of your problems? RealFlight can only see what Windows sends to it, and if that one slider is badly calibrated in Windows, perhaps the jumpiness and switch-like behavior comes from there? I have no idea if there's a way to clear a calibration in Windows, but it might be worth exploring. If not, it might be worth reattempting the calibration there to see if you can get a better outcome.
Do you or anybody you know have a different computer where you could try the same controller and see if you experience the same issues? That would go a long way toward diagnosing whether it's a hardware problem with that unit or whether things have just gotten into a really bad state on your PC.